Starting to make sense
This is my new favorite sentence from the book, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, by David D. Burns, M.D.
It helps me to understand better the UYO Story A or Story B scenario:
"It is an obvious neurological fact that before you can experience any event, you must process it with your mind and give it meaning. You must understand what is happening to you before you can feel it."
Thoughts control our feelings.
Now to figure out how to change those thoughts...
posted by Sarah Smile @ 8:09 PM
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5 Comments:
I guess that's why some people say "we choose to get angry, sad, etc." BB#2
I think most of us "feel' first..later when we have got a hold on our emotions we try to understand.
PS-
I think SB's point is that what we feel is based on how we interpret what is going on. We've conditioned ourselves to react in certain ways in certain situations, based on our experience of the world, and so when something happens, we go into knee-jerk mode, interpreting events as we think they fit into our world view, and then automatically going into the appropriate feeling for that interpretation.
We do NOT feel first. We interpret first, and then right away go into feeling. Later, we can get a hold on our emotions by understanding how we may have misinterpreted the event.
Just a thought!
I'm sure you know this, but that's what Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is all about.
I agree and stand corrected.I did not put it appropriately.We react--maybe they are conditioned,may be knee jerk.Later we analyse.But what we 'felt' was real.
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